Tuesday, December 9, 2008

0w, 0d: No baby = missed abortion

Hi, all,

Sorry to deliver this electronically, but I just don't feel like talking to people right now.

Baby Burnham died sometime a while ago, they think around six weeks. We went into for the Nuchal Translucency Screening today (to check for Down's Syndrome and other chromosomal problems) and when the technician turned on the ultrasound, there was a big sac, but nothing in it. She didn't talk to us for a while and looked around fervently, but there was nothing there. The sac and amniotic fluid were measuring on par for 12 weeks, but no baby, so somehow my body has been tricked into thinking it is still pregnant (thus the pregnancy symptoms that I still have). They call this a missed abortion, since my body has obviously not aborted the pregnancy that has terminated. I also have a cyst on my left ovary, about 2.6 x 2.1 x 1.4 cm, I'm not really sure what that is, they didn't explain it, but I am going to my Ob/Gyn office tomorrow at noon, and I think that they will explain more of what might have happened and go over what our options are.

That's really all the information we have - there's no baby, there probably hasn't been for six weeks. I'm glad I didn't tell very many people now.

We're okay, just taking today off to process the news. Thanks for your prayers and thoughts.



Anonymous said...

praying lots for you!

Shelley said...

I realize it's stupid to say this, but using the terminology "abortion" makes me sick. It has such negative connotations...which you don't deserve to have cross anyone's mind for even a millisecond!! Praying for you from Arkansas ((hugs))

Stephanie said...

I don't know if you still read the comments from this blog anymore. But I remembered when you were going through this awful time, and now, I understand how you felt. Monday I rushed to the hospital at 12 weeks with severe cramps and bleeding. It didn't occur to me what was happening until I'd been at the hospital for awhile, and then eventually the doctor confirmed a miscarriage. Like you, I likely "lost" the fetus a while ago, but differently, my body expelled it rather than requiring the medication. I'm still struggling with this, but I know that you eventually ended up with so many beautiful babies, so I'm looking at your story as a hopeful reminder that it will be better.